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Making Your Ceremony Yours July 27, 2009

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Many brides and grooms are so excited to get married that they plan their futures together and they plan the details of the reception, but they don’t pay much attention to the ceremony. Short and sweet makes a happy group of guests. Get to the party!

Having a short ceremony isn’t a bad thing. Just don’t forget the sweet part. Put some thought into how the ceremony will take place and how you want to incorporate your personalities. Here’s an example. Ever seen 18 Kids and Counting? When the eldest Duggar boy got married, he and his bride added to their vows that they would trust God with the size of their family. This may seem extreme to you, but it was on their hearts to include it in their vows before the people they loved.

Writing your own vows is another good way to make them personal. This may seem like a daunting task, so here are a few tips for making it easier. Begin several months before the wedding. Give yourself time to come up with ideas, edit them and edit them again. Make a list of the things that you think are important to let your future spouse know. Remember that these will be vows that you make in front of many people who will be involved in your life and your marriage. Your vows should be considered an oath that your friends and family will keep you accountable to in the future. In fact, many officiants will charge the guests with the task to support the marriage in this way. Think about the things that you would want from your spouse and promise those things to them despite whether or not you receive them too.

If you have special readings or songs in the ceremony, explain either aloud or in the programs why you chose that piece and what it means to you as a couple. There is so much symbolism in a wedding ceremony. Share that with your guests. Put it in your album. Remember it through the years.

 

Don’t Even Mention Rain at My Wedding! May 28, 2009

The thought of a rainy wedding day will send shudders down the back of any bride. The thing you must remember is that, as long as you are married by the end of the day, you had a successful wedding. However, no one will reprimand you for being prepared. You can plan for rain by having a tent with a floor, and plenty of parking that’s not in the grass or mud. If you’d rather have a sunny outdoor wedding, you can simply watch the weather the week of the wedding and rent a tent the day before if it looks like rain. You will be out a good amount of money if you end up not using it, but then what will you do if you don’t have a tent ready and your guests get rained on? Before doing this, check with your rental company about the cancellation fee. If there is an indoor facility nearby, you may consider using this as back-up. Just be sure to have all the arrangements done ahead of time. You may need to reserve the space, or even rent it out. If there isn’t anything nearby, make sure there are sidewalks around so your guests aren’t trudging through the mud in their heels. If there aren’t any, get some cute stepping stones to line the pathway to and from the ceremony site.

If it does happen to rain on your wedding, everyone will be happier if you embrace it. Wedding planner Deanna Morgan suggests saving some of the wedding day rain in a bottle for your baby’s baptism (information found here). You could also hand out umbrellas as favors. This would make for a great trash the dress opportunity. Or, if the rain appears before you get any pictures in, protect the dress and take pictures when you get back from your honeymoon.

 

Where Do I Start? April 13, 2009

 

Images borrowed from australiaentertains.com/au

Images borrowed from australiaentertains.com/au

Yesterday, I met a woman who was recently engaged. The first thing she asked me was, “What’s the first thing I should do?” When a bride hasn’t been planning her wedding since she was six, the task of putting together the party of a lifetime seems a little daunting. My answer was simple–decide the formality of your event and how big you want it to be. The formality and size play big roles in deciding the venue for the ceremony and reception, which is the next step. 

 

The formality of your wedding should fit your personalities as bride and groom. If you are a relaxed, go-with-the-flow environmentalist, perhaps a casual, eco-friendly, backyard garden wedding would best represent you. If you are a glamour-girl who loves to dress up and go dancing and be surrounded by champagne fountains, you may enjoy a black tie event (the most formal) at the Ritz Carlton. There is everything in between, too. 

To determine the size of your wedding, you should think about how intimate you want it to be. Would you prefer to have long talks with those you love and party for a week? A destination wedding with about 20 people is perfect for you. How about a big party that the neighbors will complain about where the dance floor is filled all night long? Invite all your friends and family. Of course, budget plays a part in this decision, too. Yes, a smaller wedding will be less expensive.  Just remember, you can still find ways to save money even if you have a couple hundred guests.

Once you’ve figured out about how many people you’d like to invite, start looking for a venue that fits your formality and size. Also begin to make your guest list. Have your fiance and both sets of parents start writing a list with “Must” be invited, and “try” to invite. Then, you can morph those lists to combine one and start trimming it down.

 

Don’t Forget the Details! March 17, 2009

Guests will be entertained mostly by two things at your wedding: the food and the music. After that, there isn’t much they will remember. Unless they keep finding little surprises. Hide details throughout the event to get oohs and ahhs from your guests. Here are some ideas:

 

Flower Pots from myecochicwedding.com and bouquet wraps from Martha Stewart Weddings

Flower Pots from myecochicwedding.com and bouquet wraps from Martha Stewart Weddings

 

My Wedding Pictures March 11, 2009

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Well, I do My Wedding Pictures pretty often, but this time, I almost teared up browsing through the memories of that day. This is why I love planning weddings. I would be hard pressed to find a better gift than to be involved in that special day with someone else.

Well, today, I wanted to mention the little ones in the wedding party. It’s a good idea to prepare the ring bearer and flower girls. Have them walk down the aisle several times so that there is no confusion and tell them exactly what they are to do. Then, let them do what they will. People will always adore the children, whether they do what they are supposed to or something completely different. In fact, when they do something silly, like tell each other what to do, play with the doves instead of standing during the ceremony, or don’t even get all the way down the aisle, it is sometimes even more precious. So, don’t sweat it. Just enjoy them!

Here is my cousin, Kira:

 

Photo by Linda Story

Photo by Linda Story

Her sister, McKenzie:

 

Photo by Linda Story

Photo by Linda Story

and their brother, Marcus:

 

Photo by Linda Story

Photo by Linda Story

In action:

 

Photo by Linda Story

Photo by Linda Story

 

Photo by Linda Story

Photo by Linda Story

And, of course, peeking at the doves:

 

Photo by Linda Story

Photo by Linda Story

 

Stay in the Lines March 10, 2009

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Line is the last element of value, so we’ll finish up last week’s discussion with that. Let’s talk about line in reference to movement. When designing your wedding, it’s important to imagine the flow of the evening and how your guests will move throughout the evening. Picture them going from the ceremony to the reception. If they are at different sites, how will your guests (and wedding party) get there? Once there, How will they know where to go and what to do? How will they know when to move on from cocktail hour to the reception area? When considering these questions, picture the capacity of your invitation list (perhaps hundreds of people) filing through these spaces. You might need signs, or venue employees to make announcements. Consider how much space will comfortably hold your guests, both in the rooms and transition areas. Be aware of their needs–restrooms, food, drink, entertainment, direction. Guests will have certain expectations. Figure out what they are and try your best to fulfill them.