Many brides and grooms are so excited to get married that they plan their futures together and they plan the details of the reception, but they don’t pay much attention to the ceremony. Short and sweet makes a happy group of guests. Get to the party!
Having a short ceremony isn’t a bad thing. Just don’t forget the sweet part. Put some thought into how the ceremony will take place and how you want to incorporate your personalities. Here’s an example. Ever seen 18 Kids and Counting? When the eldest Duggar boy got married, he and his bride added to their vows that they would trust God with the size of their family. This may seem extreme to you, but it was on their hearts to include it in their vows before the people they loved.
Writing your own vows is another good way to make them personal. This may seem like a daunting task, so here are a few tips for making it easier. Begin several months before the wedding. Give yourself time to come up with ideas, edit them and edit them again. Make a list of the things that you think are important to let your future spouse know. Remember that these will be vows that you make in front of many people who will be involved in your life and your marriage. Your vows should be considered an oath that your friends and family will keep you accountable to in the future. In fact, many officiants will charge the guests with the task to support the marriage in this way. Think about the things that you would want from your spouse and promise those things to them despite whether or not you receive them too.
If you have special readings or songs in the ceremony, explain either aloud or in the programs why you chose that piece and what it means to you as a couple. There is so much symbolism in a wedding ceremony. Share that with your guests. Put it in your album. Remember it through the years.