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FYI: Wedding Traditions March 5, 2010


Photo by Linda Story

Today, the honor of supporting a bride and groom by being in the wedding party is different from what it used to be. The role of the wedding party originated in ancient times when they would wear similar clothing as the bride and groom to confuse evil spirits. This was an effort to protect the happy couple on their special day. It has also been said that, in cultures where the groom captured his bride from her tribe, he would take a handful of men to fight off her angry relatives as he escaped with her.

Today, the wedding party, or bridal party, is there more to support the couple than to protect them physically. Many people understand the honor of being in the wedding party, but not the responsibility. The time before the wedding is a crucial time for bridesmaids and groomsmen to be readily available. The bride and groom will be looking for emotional support, encouragement and someone to lift a little stress off their shoulders. Much of the time, simply being present is a great help. The task is not usually difficult, as it should only include throwing a party or shower, running errands, making phone calls and generally having a great time with friends. However, when asked to be in your friend’s wedding party, you should be completely willing to give up much of your time and energy as the wedding gets closer. You are the one the bride and groom will turn to when they need some emergency help getting the invitations sent out or picking up that forgotten item. More importantly, you are the one who will help them stay calm and focused on the joy of what the wedding means. Take the role bridesmaid or groomsmen as an honor and a commitment.