Another etiquette question was asked of me that I feel I should address. When a woman gets engaged, she finds that her old friends who haven’t been in contact for months, or even years, will start showing up. Does that mean she must invite those friends who have come back into her life?
I would say no, not necessarily.
If you are already having a large wedding, inviting your parents’ co-workers whom you don’t even know, and there’s room in your venue, then yes. There’s really no way to politely say, “Well, I don’t know who that guy is, but you can’t come”.
If you have limited space, limited budget and you really wanted it to be a private affair with the people you love most, then you don’t need to feel obligated to invite old friends.
Here is my rule of thumb: If you have been close to this person for at least the last five months and you plan on staying close for decades to come, invite them. If it has been longer than a year since you have even spoken to them, don’t worry about it. The fact is, you can always send announcements to the people who didn’t get invitations.
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