This post is for all those grooms-to-be out there…or all those brides who want to show their grooms that they really do have a role in the wedding besides saying ‘I do’. Some grooms want to be involved in the planning, as it is their day, too. However, most grooms just let their future bride take care of it, since they have probably been dreaming about it for years anyway. My husband was the latter. So, I have a little advice for those who just don’t know how to let their sweetie know they care without taking over the details.
First of all, if your bride asks you to do something, do it! Do it fast, do it well and then let her know that it’s done. If she gives you a task that you really don’t want to do, tell her you don’t feel comfortable with it and then offer to do another task for her (if you’ve been listening to her, you’ve probably heard the hundreds of things on her list).
Second, if she asks your opinion on wedding details, give her your honest opinion and then forget about it. Ultimately, she will probably go with whatever makes her happy and if she does you need to respect that. You get to plan the honeymoon. Let her have her day. However, almost every bride I’ve known truly does want to know how they can help their groom be involved in planning. So, let her know.
Now, this is the most important part. Remind your bride over and over why you are getting married. It’s not so that she can have fake snow brought in for a winter wedding in April. It’s so that you can spend the rest of your life with the one you love. So, if all else fails, you will still be together, and that’s what counts. Be on her side. Support her. This is one of the four most stressful times in her life (the other three being the experience of child bearing, death of a loved one and moving). Let her know that she’s not alone in it. Be her hero.